Friday, November 4, 2011

Do you ever really know when you're done?

     The other day I was reading this blog post here and it got me thinking. My husband and I have had the discussion about how many kids we will have and he's pretty open, so I think for the most part it's up to me. I've heard some women say when you're done you will just know, and I'm wondering if that's true. I've had c-sections, so they always ask if I want my tubes tied, and I just feel like that is so permanent and how am I suppose to know if I don't want anymore kids before I even have the baby in my arms.
     I've always wanted a big family since I was an only child and I always dreamed of having siblings. I know three kids is big to some people, and who knows maybe I will decide it's big enough for me but it's too soon to tell. Rory is only almost 7 months so I would definitely wait awhile, but I don't want to wait too long since my kids are so close in age I wouldn't want the next one to be like five years later. If for whatever reason that did happen I'm sure it would be fine though. I guess I just wonder if you definitely knew you were done or if you feel the same way?
     I'm indecisive by nature, so I guess it's good two of our children were surprises otherwise it could have taken years to make a decision because I always go back and forth. At first we were talking about maybe trying when we can move, but then I think what if we still can't sell our house in 3 years should I really let that stop me from having another kid. Then I think maybe it will be nice to have three kids who are more independent and not carrying baby stuff all time. As soon as I see a newborn though my mind changes and I can't imagine not having another one. Crazy, I know since Rory is just 6.5 months but hopefully I'm not the only one.

6 comments:

  1. There must be something in the air that is causing us mommies to think about this subject. I'm just taking it one day at a time. My husband and I will know for certain one day, I hope.

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  2. Yeah I would take it one day at a time as well. I don't have my sons father with us, it's just me and the little man. I get people asking all the time if I'm ever gonna have another child. I keep saying not anytime soon.

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  3. I'm leaning towards being done, but it's too soon to tell. I still have a few years to figure it all out, as long as my Mirena doesn't fail me!

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  4. You wrote this post for me lol I am you!! Indecisive by nature and can never be one of those women that says they're done. I don't know that yet. I have an 11 yr old, an 8 yr old and a 9 mth old baby...I think if I was done, I'd be able to say it :)

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  5. I am not done. I really want a third. My husband is done though. I am sure hoping I could get him on board because my family doesn't feel totally complete yet. We shall see!

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