Wednesday, September 7, 2011

Love and Marriage

  

  I read a great post today about marriage.  You can read it here.  I love how open and honest it is.  Marriage is something that has always scared me, in my whole family there is only one couple who is still married.  Most have divorced, some widowed so that's a different situation.  Overall I never really had the experience of seeing a couple that stays together through good and bad times and still loved one another.  It just seemed when things got bad they gave up. Not that I am saying there is anything wrong with divorce, I understand some relationships just don't work.
  My parents separated when I was 5 and then later divorced, so I barely remember their relationship.  In my personal experience I haven't seen too many marriages last. Ones that I thought were strong, were later broken by infidelity or other problems. When I got married I always had the fear in the back of my mind that what if this didn't last. I tend run when there are problems or call it quits, but this isn't something that works in a marriage and therefore something I have been working on.  I know a marriage takes work and compromise and at times may not be easy, but when those times come I know I am willing to work hard to make it through.  Not only for us, but also our children because I know from my own experience all I ever wanted was for my parents to be together. Now as I am older I understand why they didn't stay together, but at the time it was hard and all I wanted was for mommy and daddy to be together.
     I think with having kids, worrying about financial issues, work, cleaning house, and many of the everyday things that take up all our time it is easy to not put focus on your relationship. In the beginning it seems like all you have is nothing but time to be together, but now those times are few and far between and usually someone is exhausted by the time you are alone.  We have realized though that making time for our relationship, makes us better parents and have tried to go on dates more.
     Sometimes I think while blogging we just tend to share all the good parts of our lives because the rest is hard to share and personal. Even though it is hard I feel it can be threaputic and inspiring to others.  Greta's post inspired me and is something I will definitely think of when times get hard. In a world where having a marriage that lasts is fairly uncommon, there are not many at least in my life to go to for advice.  I hope in 20 years we can look back and see all the good even through the difficult times and grow to love each other more then we do now.

13 comments:

  1. Enjoyed your post! Found your page via the Wednesday Welcome Blog Hop! Follow back @ http://www.pargasjunkyard.wordpress.com and/or on facebook @ http://www.facebook.com/pages/Pargas-Junkyard/259287017434763

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  2. Following your blog from a blog hop! Please follow me back! I love your blog!

    www.romanianprincess.com

    XoXo Nicole Mariana

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  3. I know how you feel. It's almost expected for a couple to get divorced. There certainly are a lot of strains on a marriage now-a-days.

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  4. I read the marriage blog and I wanted to thank you for linking to it! I love the picture you have... marriage can be great!

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  5. I liked your post. My husband and I reached our 20th anniversary this year, and although, yes it does take work but the benefits more than outweigh the frustrating times. New follower from the Whimsical Wednesday hop.

    Cherished Handmade Treasures
    http://www.cherishedhandmadetreasures.blogspot.com/

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  6. Just found you through 3 Four and Under! Love your honesty!

    Liz
    behindthescenes2009.blogspot.com

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  7. Hi, Im a new follower big 300 :), loving the blog! Stopping by from the Wednesday Blog hop I would love to invite you to follow me back, J'S REVIEWS AND GIVEAWAYS
    Thanks so much! have a great day!

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  8. Stopping by from the Just 'Cuz blog hop! Marriage is one tricky beast, that's for sure!

    http://earlyliteracymama.blogspot.com

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  9. Great post, thank you for sharing =) Following from the Thursday Hop.
    Trisha
    Www.MommaTandBabyE.com

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  10. Found your page from a blog hop. Great post ~ new follower! www.laborlooks.blogspot.com

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  11. I think people like to take the easy way out, and in this day in age for marriage this means divorce. I grew surrounded by divorce and don't want to continue to the trend.

    Found you on the Terrific Thursday hop.

    ~your newest follower

    www.theclumsycoquette.com

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  12. I really enjoyed this post! My husband and I have almost been married 4 years so we are just starting out compared to most. We have 2 sweet kids. Sometimes it is so discouraging to see how the world or people in general take marriage for granted. It is definitely hard, but what great thing ever came easy?! I agree with you. It is SO important to make time for your relationship. It is important to be a parent, but it is important to be a wife or husband too! I love being married and it saddens me to see others marriages fall apart. Thanks for sharing your thoughts.

    I am your newest follower from the hop! I would love it if you would follow me too! Thanks so much!
    -Nikki
    http://chef-n-training.blogspot.com/

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  13. I definitely want to prioritize my marriage, and I've been trying to have a weekly date night with my husband.

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