Sunday, April 29, 2012

Positive Thinking

   Recently I read this post about the effect our words have on others and the impact our negative words and complaining has on our family and friends.If you have a minute you should really check it out. I'll just tell you this post really hit home this is something I have been trying to work on  for a while now and still struggle with because I do always tend to look at the things we don't have instead of all the things we do. I tend to always think the worst. Looking back I know that some of the way I think has to do with the way I was raised.  I know that negative thoughts and complaints are not just going to disappear, but I am going to work hard and not voicing them especially if they are of no value to anyone. What good does it do when I complain about how hard my day was? Instead on what to start focusing on how good it was and share those parts of my day with others. Because even though being a mom is one of the hardest things I've ever done it also is the most wonderful and I can not even begin to explain how much love and joy has filled my heart since becoming a mom and with each child it has grown more. When my children look back I want them to remember a mom who was happy and filled with love, not a grumpy and crabby mom
      I want to raise kids who think positive and are grateful, but how can I do that when they hear me complaining all the time. Because as adults we always worry if we are giving our kids enough and look at what other moms or families have or the things they do. I know this is especially true in the blogging world. I read some blogs and get sad because my house doesn't look like a pottery barn catalog and I can't do tons of awesome crafts, but we all only share part of our lives and usually it's the best parts. I know these are not things my kids are worried about though all they want is me and it takes so little to make them happy just my time and attention. Sometimes I get caught up in the everyday life and truly forget how lucky I am, but now I have been trying to slow down in those stressful moments and realize that most of the things I stress about really are not a big deal(so what if the house is a mess, if we are five minutes late, everyone is crying) As long as I am doing me best and my family is healthy and happy all the other stuff seems so small


  1. No ones house is perfect, well at least I dont think so, I know ours isn't. Hang in there.

  2. I think the most important thing for me when I'm complaining or having a moan is to make it a constructive moan. So if something is wrong I can figure out how to sort it out or how I could respond to it in a different way. I think I've shared as much bad as good on my blog. I don't think my friends and family would put up with my silly moans! great post x

  3. HOW FUNNY - I JUST read that post SECONDS before coming here! :) Thanks for posting it to my post last week -- it took me until now to read it, and I was just coming over to thank you and check in with what's going on with you! I could learn SO many lessons from what was written.

    Today I won't cry or complain when Jake comes home. And I won't even mention the dog puke I woke up to. ;) lol. I'm going to be POSITIVE tonight :)

    Hope everyone is well, Jessica! <3