Wednesday, March 21, 2012
The Poop Wars
So we have been having a war at our house and I'm afraid to say that I am losing. At this point I am at a loss of what to do next and have raised the white flag.
Our oldest, Liam turned 4 on Leap Day. He has been potty trained since right before he turned 3, but pooping has always been an issue for him. Even as a baby once he started solids he would only poop every few days and they would be huge and hard. TMI I know, but if you're a mom you are surrounded by this all day. When we first started potty training he would still go poo in his underwear sometimes, and had a fear of using the toilet, but after a couple months he got the hang of it and was good to go. Don't get me wrong he would still hold it for as long as he could, but when he needed to go he would use the toilet or be bribed to do so.
This past couple of weeks though he has just told me he no longer wants to poo on the toilet. I know part of it is fear because since he holds it so long it hurts. Trust me we give this kid lots of food that will help him go, but still he waits and dances around trying to hold it in.
Once he starts dancing around I know he has to go. So Monday he started dancing around before school and I made him try to go he sat on the toilet for 30 minutes crying then got off and sat on the floor. Luckily Jack came home and helped me and sat him back on the toilet, he screamed but after a while he finally went. Then today he was dancing around again and I had him sit on the toilet, but he didn't go. Then when he was in the bath, he told me he pooped in there. The hard part is it didn't even bother him. When he used to have accidents he would feel bad and I could tell it bothered him. Now he doesn't seem to care and actually said I could just put a diaper on him if I want to. I feel like we've tried everything: rewards, punishment, praise, ignoring, giving attention when he does it and now I'm at a loss. I know besides the fear part of it may be a control issue, but we do let him have many choices whenever possible. I feel like we are at a stand still and all of a sudden we are back to where we were in the beginning, but at least back then rewards worked. I just needed to vent, but if you have any advice it would be appreciated.